I agree with the saying “behind every great man, is a great woman”. From the get go I want to thank my wife for caring for me throughout the ups and downs of my life, for blessing me with beautiful children, and most of all for being the beacon of love and care in our lives. She is a big reason why I am the person I am today. My wife taught me a lot throughout our relationship that has helped us through our journey together, and very much like me, she keeps it simple, so here goes.

Love Always Comes First

It is easy to stress about all the different things going on in our lives, careers, deadlines, and events, which tend to make us put the things we take for granted at the bottom of our priority list. The love of your partner feels like it will be there forever regardless of the things we do and the way we act, but I am here to tell you it won’t. Your partner occupies a big share of your life that completes you, and no matter what you are going through in life, they will be the first to help and come through for you when you need them the most. Simply give them the attention they deserve. No matter what you are going through, remember that your love for them comes first, hold them, kiss them, hug them, show them you appreciate them, and you will be surprised at how everything that is bothering you just seems to fade away into the distant background.

Listening Makes All The Difference

“Let’s talk about it” is usually the first thing that comes up when there is trouble in a relationship. It may sound pretty obvious, but listening is probably one of the greatest steps to avoiding that difficult process coming up in the first place. The rush of life causes us to speed through some of the most important parts of our relationships. We may hear what our partner is saying, but are we shutting everything else down and completely listening? Or are we taking in every word and understanding more about how they feel? By not listening we miss so many messages and opportunities to make the relationship stronger. Next time you sit down to talk to your partner and ask how their day went, be there in the moment; listen so deeply that you go past their words and into their heart.  By understanding how they truly feel about a situation you can work together on making it better, so instead of talking later, listen now.

Focus On What Really Matters

If anything, marriage has redefined the things that truly matter in my life, which I would think comes naturally when you prioritize the people you love. Think to yourself, what would be more important, an hour more of work, or an hour of time with your loved one? Believe me, to someone you love that hour means everything. It is important to visualize yourself in the future looking back at your life with the person you love, and think to yourself, what will I regret? What will I wish I had done differently? Then take whatever actions you can today to prevent that from ever happening. In the end, you could lose everything, but if you can look back on a life where you made decisions that made your partner laugh a little harder, smile a little longer, or feel a little more loved then you will have lost nothing at all. That is all that truly matters.

Falling in love is easy, and staying in love can be just as easy, you will conquer any troubles that find their way into your lives if you always put each other first, listen with your hearts, and never forget what brought you together in the first place.

These words are dedicated to my wife Salama, I only smile when I think of you.