I was once asked “What does love mean to you?”. It’s a hard question to answer because love means different things to different people. The question had me thinking of all the moments of joy with my family, friends, and previous relationships I’ve been in. The more I thought about it the harder it was to pin point one specific element that kept my relationships with certain people strong.

Let’s take the example of a partnership or marriage between two people; the relationship includes many different aspects, physical, emotional, spiritual, and intellectual. The physical relationship and attraction is certainly important but for me what really tied everything together in any relationship was how I felt when we were talking to each other.

Think about some of the moments when you were most engaged, and when you felt a strong sense of connection in a relationship. Those moments were usually with someone you could talk with openly, deeply and freely about anything that was going on in your life. Where you loved listening to them, where all elements of time, your worries about the future or regrets from the past just disappear.

Then I defined what love meant to me, “love is listening to someone talk and never wanting them to stop”. When a couple is excited to see each other after a long day at work just to hear how the other is doing you know their love is deep.

Now why do I say that? Well when you’re excited about the conversations you have with your partner it must mean that you respect each other, it must mean you’re both intellectually stimulated by each other’s views and thoughts. It’s a love that comes straight from the heart.

One day someone will come along that we want to share our lives with. What I’ve found through life and relationships is before you share your hearts with each other, share your words, and if those words connect you the hearts will always follow, and the love will always last.