Sometimes I reflect on the lives of my wife and I together and how we have come to be, not about how we fell in love but how we stay in love. Here are a few things we discovered on our journey together.

The Work

Like anything strong our marriage was going to require hard work. We promised each other that time together would be a priority, that we would put in the effort to do things together and we would never take each other for granted. From experience that’s where most relationships have failed, when one or both partners start to feel that love is automatic, it’s not. Love is triggered by the way you make your partner feel, so if you want love to last, put in the work.

The Little Things

It’s the habits you and your partner carry out daily that make the difference, the kiss in the morning before you go to work, the text message to let them know you’re thinking of them, or having tea together at the end of a long day. Your relationship is a product of the rituals you and your partner devote yourselves to everyday, they cost nothing but little moments of time and pay back with a lifetime of love and happiness.

The Spark

Remember the first moment you knew you were going to spend the rest of your lives together, your first kiss, the first “I love you”, your first night as a married couple. Hold on to those moments, because like everything in this world no marriage is perfect, there are beautiful times and there are hard times. When those hard times come it’s the memories of why you fell in love that allow your love to grow stronger.

Love is many things to many people but what always holds true is that a loving relationship takes two people who adore each other, who make each other a priority, who stick to little rituals and who always remind each other of how blessed they are to be together. Being in love is easy, but staying in love comes to those who have embraced the work that goes into their relationship and love every second of it.