The thing about being apart for even a short time is that I’m reminded of what it’s like to be alone, to wake up alone, to eat alone, to chill around the house alone, to sleep alone. I’m reminded how important it is to have someone in your life that cares for you, and that lets you care for them. The hardest part is being reminded of all the things I wish I had done differently.

When I let our argument go on longer that it had to, when I took your presence for granted, when I stayed at late to feel busy when I should have been home on the couch with you, when I was in a rush to get to work and didn’t kiss you on the cheek before I ran out the door, when I didn’t hold you for that little bit longer.

The funny thing is that everything I am reminded of are little decisions we make everyday that can change our lives. I have learned in life that it is important for me to make the decisions today that will still matter 20 years from now.

Will me staying late at work or school to make a presentation a little more perfect matter 20 years from now? I doubt it, but will spending those few extra hours with my wife mean something 20 years from now, I think they will. Love is something that is built over years and years, and every moment counts. My wife and I still talk about memories of the most basic things like that time we ate a great burger, or when we watched an awful movie but kept watching for some reason, or when we got chased by a dog during a late night walk.

They are moments we still laugh about and all these moments took place because we made a decision to prioritize each other. We made a decision to do the things today that will still matter tomorrow.

A relationship won’t ever be entirely perfect but a strong relationship doesn’t have to be perfect, it’s just about making more right decisions that wrong ones and learning from the times things went wrong. It’s about making the right decisions for your future together, it’s about reminding yourself of what truly matters in life is the love you have for each other, and sometimes it’s about holding on to each other for little bit longer even when you have someplace else you need to be.