The idea of commitment scares a lot of people, in a world where it’s getting harder to keep your attention, where you are always looking for change, growth, and that next new adventure, the thought of promising to share your life with someone forever can be paralyzing. Those are fears I had to when I first thought of marriage.

As our relationship grew the idea of commitment has grown to mean so much more to me. Not only am I committed to the woman I fell in love with, but I am committed to the way she makes me feel, and I am committed to the way I can make her feel, the way I can bring joy and warmth to her life.

I am committed to the children we have and the way they make us laugh and drive us crazy every now and then. I am committed to the journey we are taking together to life lives that are true to who we are, where we are proud of the work we do. We are committed to fixing our problems together rather than walking away from each other when things get hard. We are committed to seeing the world together and experiencing everything life has to offer, and we are committed to making each other smile.

What I have learned is that commitment is more than just the promise of spending your life with someone on the day you get married. Commitment is a feeling, it’s an experience, it’s an exciting adventure that is always there for you to experience.

People often think of commitment as routine, like now you are going to have to live the same day over and over again for the rest of your life. What they forget is that routine is a choice, you as a couple decide what happens in your relationship and throughout your day from the moment you wake up.

That day could be a commitment to just keeping your promise of simply being together for another day, or it could be a commitment to making this day special, a day where you cherish your partner with all your heart, a day where you are grateful to be spending it with the person you love the most, and that is a commitment you never have to be afraid of.