I took a class at university that discussed decision making, and during one of the classes the lecturer asked “What do you think is the most important decision we make in life?” When it came to my turn to answer I said “The person you choose to spend the rest of your life with, the person you marry”.

One of my classmates then asked me “How did you know that you made the right decision?”, I told my answer in short story. When Salama and I travelled for our honeymoon I had the first night all planned to perfection, we would land in Kuala Lumpur, rest in the hotel, go for a walk, then end the evening at a beautiful restaurant that overlooked the city for our first romantic dinner.

Everything was going perfectly, then we got to the restaurant and they told us they were fully booked. From all intense planning for the wedding and honeymoon the one thing I forgot to do was book us a table for dinner, the dinner. I was so embarrassed, I had pictured this evening in my head for months, it was going to be perfect, and now nothing.

As we walked out of the restaurant Salama just said that we would find somewhere else to eat, I was just worried what she was thinking about the man she had just married that couldn’t even book a table for dinner on their first romantic evening together.

We decided to just keep walking and as we passed a food kart that was selling chicken satay Salama asked “Do you just want to eat here?”. I was pretty shocked that our romantic dinner was turning into street food, I asked her if she was sure, she said of course.

We ordered our chicken satay then sat on a bench at the side of the road to eat. We ended up on that bench for nearly three hours, we talked about everything and anything, we laughed at the situation, but most of all we enjoyed each others company, it was like the whole world disappeared.

It was at that moment I knew this was the best decision in my life. I knew that I was with someone who didn’t care about where we were, what we were doing or how we looked, all that mattered to her was that she was with me and I was with her. Now 8 years later, we still do the same.

It shaped that way we view our relationship, we know we can’t control the way the world works or what may happen on any given day, but what we do control is how we feel no matter what happens. We know that the important things in life are not the fancy restaurants, the luxurious trips or the expensive things. What’s important is that we are together, that we can make the most out of any situation, that we can make each other happy no matter what.